Caution: This post talks about unwanted sexual advances.
To be a lady in the world implies you’re most likely going to have to deal with creepy/inappropriate habits from males. And the worst part? The majority of these guys like to wax poetic about what “great guys” they are.
When Reddit user u/TristanAurelius asked, “Women who ghosted a ‘good guy’ pal after he did something weird, what was it?” I understood that the reactions were going to regretfully be all too relatable. Here are simply a couple of that show why it can often be so hard for females to feel safe around guys and trust their intents.
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“He punched a wall till his knuckles were all bloody and sent me the images since I was on a date and didn’t react to his texts for like 3 hours. He was ‘mad at himself’ that he was envious, and ‘needed to penalize himself.'”
2.
“He messaged my daddy on Facebook to inform him that he was his ‘bane’ since I would not socialize with him on my father’s birthday.”
3.
“He appeared at my work unwanted and concealed around a corner. He texted me that I looked fantastic in my sweatshirt.”
4.
“He stated he was feeling lonesome and requested a hug. I’m not typically a hugger, however I offered him a hug and he went directly in for the kiss. I do not believe I’ve ever retreated from anybody else that quick.”
5.
“I captured him sneakily tape-recording a video of me without my permission throughout a swimming pool celebration. He declared he didn’t even understand his phone was taping, which it was a mishap, so I asked to see his phone to confirm and he declined. It was a pal’s birthday celebration so I didn’t make waves (didn’t wish to destroy the celebration for the birthday lady), however I without delay obstructed that guy on whatever and never ever talked to him once again.”
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“He asked me for images of my feet, and when I stated ‘f * ck no,’ he reacted with, ‘I get it, we can simply pretend this never ever occurred.’ Uhhhh, No the f * ck we can’t, my man.”
7.
“He attempted to kiss me while we were hanging out individually since his fiancée was ill and could not make it. Implicated me of leading him on by hanging out individually.”
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“In high school a good friend was sent out away for behavior/mental health concerns for a couple of months. When he returned, among his very first messages to me was asking if he might consume me out because, ‘it’s been a very long time considering that he did it.’ Never ever spoke once again.”
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“He called my moms and dads’ home phone. I never ever provided him that number. I didn’t even understand the number.”
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“He began asking progressively intrusive concerns about where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing. When I attempted to set borders, he blamed me for not being there for him enough (we had actually understood each other possibly 2-3 weeks) and went off on me for ‘leading him on.’ When I informed him I didn’t wish to continue being pals, he wept that I was leaving him similar to everybody else.”
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“He awaited me on my kids’ trampoline in our backyard when I wasn’t home. He resided in my community and walked over earlier and wished to hang out, however I stated I was hectic, got in my automobile and repelled in front of him. I presumed he ‘d stroll home, however he didn’t! My other next-door neighbor had an electronic camera; he remained there on my trampoline for 2.5 hours till I got home with my kids and after that was upset I would not let him inside to hang out while I put them to bed.”
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“He composed a love tune about a lady referred to as looking precisely like me, muffled my bed, and looked deep into my eyes as he sang it to me. When I pleasantly informed him this was truly good however I wasn’t interested, he called me a pompous b * tch for presuming the tune had to do with me.”
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“I was out to supper with him and my other half. He informed my hubby that he was going to take me away, which if he had actually discovered me initially, my hubby would’ve never ever had a possibility.”
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“He informed me he liked me and attempted to kiss me after his bro began flirting with me. I ‘d understood him permanently, informed him whatever like you would a female pal. There was never ever even a tip that he liked me.”
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He provided to provide me a trip to a video game for a co-ed group I simply signed up with (understood this guy from high school), and he informed me the group goes out for supper after, so I stated I ‘d sign up with. I discovered nobody was opting for food however me and him since he made it up. Never ever called my daddy to come choose me up so quick.”
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“He sent me images of his d * ck, in color and black and white, and asked me which one was much better. Male truthfully do not comprehend how squashing it is when you believe you’ve made a pal who appreciates you and really likes you as an individual, just to recognize he’s simply been biding his time to sleep with you.”
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“I had a ‘great guy’ roomie at one point. He was constantly respectful and cordial. My feline was ill, and invested a bulk of the time in my space. I established a family pet electronic camera in my space so I might watch on her while I was at work. One day, I examined the electronic camera and so took place to see my “great guy’ roomie crawling out of my closet on all fours. That was enjoyable.”
Have you ever handled weird or improper habits from a male good friend? Share your stories in the remarks.
Keep in mind: Responses have actually been modified for length/clarity.